{Be Confident} Waiting & Dating

Ladies,
It has been so heavy on my heart to talk about settling in relationships and how good GODLY men still do exist out there in the world overpowering with a bunch of bozos.

I just am going to post a few things on my heart and that I have taken into serious consideration when it comes to dating, along with some things that I have read in the book A Man Worth Waiting For, which you ALL should read, that have changed my heart.

Make Him Climb. The top of the tree is where the best fruit is (you), the rotten fruit always drops to the ground. YOU ARE WORTH climbing to the top of the tallest tree. A guy who is content with what is on the bottom branches is not a guy worth waiting for. Psalm 80:12 states, “But now, why have you broken down our walls so that all who pass may steal our fruit?” After reading this, I thought, someone can’t steal ripe fruit at the top of a tree or high branch as easily as they can from low branches or the ground.

Broken walls let trespassers into gardens. If a man has broken down one of the walls that guards the fruit of your heart, then I beg of you to allow Jesus, perfect and mighty in love, to place building blocks in your hands and support surrounding you that will rebuild where those walls have been destroyed. The walls we put up as women weather it be from past experiences or whatever else, WILL NOT, I repeat, WILL NOT, keep out an honorable man to still come into your life. The man worth waiting out for has the strength FROM GOD not only to climb a tree for you but also to scale a wall to win your heart. Psalm 18:29 says, “For by you I can run against a troop, by my God I can leap over a wall.” I pray every man the Lord has set out for you beautiful ladies is praying this psalm and preparing himself for you, growing in patience, humility, grace, honesty, self-sacrifice, and love.

I want to also encourage you ladies that the single life is a BLESSING. We all view it as something that is uncomfortable and hard and lonely and we compare ourselves to other who get attention from men or go on fancy dates etc, but what we are missing is that singleness is something we will never get back once we are married. It is a time to DWELL in the Lord, surrender your life to Him and be filled by Him alone. It is uncomfortable and if any of you are like me, a people person and someone wanting to just pour love into people constantly, it can be hard being alone! BUT, Jesus can and WILL fill every void you feel and fill you with everything AND MORE than a man of flesh ever will and could.

That is not to say dating is bad. It is one of the most incredible experiences and time in ones life, I just want to stress the importance of the fact that being single is OK and can be a GOOD thing where you get time to sit and rest in the Lord without any concern but be filled with excitement for whatever His will has to offer your future, I promise it will be nothing short of absolutely perfect.

I heard this analogy once and it has stuck with me ever since.

“The single life is like a big running track with all these freshly painted lanes. one day, a woman will be running in her lane, relentlessly in pursuit of Jesus, looking ahead and not around, when all of a sudden she will hear this someone approaching. If this someone is her man worth waiting for, she will NOT have to change her pace, and she wont have to look behind her, because before she knows it, he will be running alongside her. He will keep up with her, and they will continue the race at a complementary pace. This will be her running partner for the journey ahead. They will encourage each other and not trip each other.” 

WOW.
There are too many women who are running this race when they suddenly get tripped up by this bozo wanting them to slow down, take a break on the benches, and then these wonderful women of God get sidetracked for years. Remember to be patient in anticipation of a man worth the wait coming up alongside you who will ALSO be panting in relentless pursuit of Jesus.
YOU. ARE. WORTH. IT. all of it. Jesus demands so.

Xoxo,
Emily Magers